The first of the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is to be impeccable with your word. (see previous post – I is for Impeccability – With Your Word). Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against your Self, or to gossip about Others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of Truth and Love.
Words can be weapons and they have power. The power to uplift or the power to abuse and destroy. What you say has the power to influence your entire life. If you were a little child and someone, a parent or a teacher especially called you stupid or a dunce, that could affect your entire life. Referring to a part of our bodies as stupid things, like “boobies”, can have a profound impact on every single part of our life and our ultimate success in life.
Every woman seems to have issues about her breasts - issues of size (too much, too little), of function (breastfeeding and foreplay), and of dysfunction (mammograms, breast cancer, loss). We need to use language that raises our awareness of the unrealistic standards for women’s bodies that pop culture and mass media present as the “norm” – a lean, mean, trim and thin body with large firm round breasts.
If women are ever to assume their equal place in society, we cannot be referring to our beautiful breasts as “hooters,” just as we do not, as adult women over the age of 6 or 16, welcome being called “girls” or “babes.” We need to be aware of the language we use and stop using cute little phrases that demean us in any way. These are negatives, and we want to be given the positive respect that we deserve. We are women. We are strong. We are proud.