Know a lot of “Negative Nellies?” – know enough to get them out of your life right now! Negative people can be energy vampires, people who will drain the very life out of you by looking at the dark side of everything. We’ve talked a lot about the power of positive thinking and the Law of Attraction that says that what you give out is what you get back. Say No to the world, and you’ll get Nothing but No back. Say Yes and chances are life will be good! YES!
Negative thinking, according to respected thinkers like Caroline Myss and Louise Hay, can even create illness. Negative attitudes create negative responses within your body. Positive thinking can open you up to lifestyle changes that help you heal any illnesses and become a naturally positive and healthy person.
We all complain sometimes, sometimes you actually have a reason to do it. If you’re complaining because something has really gone wrong and you need help finding a solution, then go ahead and get it out. But if you’re complaining just to be heard or to vent about things all of the time, then get a grip and cut it out!
If you find yourself in the company of constant complainers, you get to choose whether they will be in your life or not. Here are some tips to deal with “Negative Nellies” –
1. Be positive with them. When they start their complaining, say to them, “I know you will figure out what to do – you’re so smart…” or something like, “Wow – that really is tough – but you are so good at dealing with stuff like this – I know you’ll find a solution.”
2. Don’t take anything they say personally. (One of the 4 Agreements of Don Miguel Ruiz.) Most of the time when people say something bad or negative, it’s about them, not about you.
3. Ignore their comments. I find it easier just to change the subject rather than engage in a negative discussion.
4. See if you can reframe the conversation to get them to see at least one good thing about the situation. But don’t be surprised if this doesn’t work – some people love their negativity!
5. Disarm someone’s negativity by being upbeat and enthusiastic and pointing out all the nice things you see or feel or hear.
6. Make new friends. Spend your time with people who are happy and positive. If you can’t get away completely (family or work), limit the time you do spend with them, set boundaries, don’t be available. Make naturally healthy choices for yourself.
7. Practice Unconditional Love. In your mind, see the Negative Nelly surrounded by love and happiness and light. Love them no matter what.
8. Keep a gratitude journal next to your bed and make it an everyday habit to write down 5 things that made you happy. It will help your attitude and your sleep.
9. Be of service. Help somebody else. It’s hard to be negative when you’re putting a smile on somebody else’s face!
10. Spend your time doing positive things for yourself. Use your time to cook and eat healthy foods. Drink more water. Get enough sleep. Look in the mirror and smile. Read some motivating and inspiring books like Everyday Positive Thinking by Louise Hay or The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale. Make better use of your own time by taking care of your natural beauty and your natural health.